Simplest Way to Make a Decision
Updated: Dec 6, 2020
When you decide you want to grow and change in life, the best approach is simple way. Not necessarily the path of least resistance. The difference is what feels natural and feels good vs. not caring about where you end up. You should always care about where you end up. In this post we talk about a simple, but effective way to make decisions. No we are not flipping coins.
Stop making it so complicated.
Ever hear the term “it’s complicated?” I’m sure you have, it seems to be a catch-phrase for modern relationships and a host of other issues. If you find yourself having to repeat this term in any aspect of your life, then you are preventing yourself from finding your true bliss. Remember that happiness is not really an emotion, it is a state of being. It is really a long-term approach for living your life. You must be defensive about your time and your energy. It sounds like a new-age approach to life, but it is probably the single most effective way to bring peace and joy into your life. If it doesn't make you happy-let it go.
Your peace of mind isn't hiding in a complicated solution.
When you seek joy, you will find peace. This has become my rallying cry, and I have adapted this philosophy into every aspect of my life. Let me clarify what I mean by this statement. People say to look for peace, and that is not something you can really find. You can can chase people, degrees, money, status, or whatever else you want, but if you're not happy doing it, ot will not bring you peace of mind. Peace will find you when you decide you are living in your own joy. It’s a simple concept, but anything that doesn’t add joy isn’t worth the effort. Your time is finite, just like mine. None of us will live forever, and that becomes more apparent with each passing day.
The method for making simple, but effective decisions.
It can be hard to simplify your life, but it is harder to hold onto things that delay your personal growth. People often say make a list of positive and negative effects of something when you are planning. It should be simpler than that. Ask yourself does the thing you are deciding on make you happy or not? In fact, I now ask myself on a scale of 1 to 10, how much joy does this add to my life? I don’t want to live in average territory anymore, so anything that is a 5 or less is just not worth my energy. People, places, and possessions that do not bring me joy, simply do not exist in my realm.
I had a deeply personal story to share here about how complicated life can be. I am not the only person involved in that story, so out of respect for the situation I will not share it in this post. All I can say is that everything feels more complicated when you are existing in someone else's chaos, rather than living your truth. It is hard to change. It is painful to grow. It is downright frightening to chase yourself. Yet, that is the solution you have been seeking. The simple truth of who you are and why you are here.
When something is genuine or genuinely belongs in your life, there will be joy associated with it. Things will come simply. It will almost feel like magic, and while the circumstances may not be ideal, the feelings will be the kind of thing that won’t make you question your reality. Something so simple can make you so happy. That is a thought that makes me happy.
Cheers to your growth and mine. Let's raise a glass to our collective evolution.