• Nayana Sen


Updated: Nov 10, 2020

Anyone besides you would feel like a compromise and I don’t want to negotiate anymore.

Honestly, there is really just one litmus test when it comes to how you feel about someone. Would being with someone else feel like a compromise for your soul? It is possible that person feels the same way about you. It is also possible that they don't. So many of us settle for relationships based on loneliness or expectations. If you feel this way about someone, then please don't get into a relationship with someone else to fill the void.

If you can't be with the person you want to be with for whatever reason, then why not be with yourself? Don't negotiate with your heart because you will never win. I'm not suggesting you should stay single indefinitely or that you should chase after someone who is not interested in you. What I am saying is that we spark with certain people, and that is entirely out of our control. I know people that have never been single in their entire adult life. They are always with someone. There are many times I think I should do the same thing, but in the end I'm not afraid to be by myself for a while.

I want to know who I am at this point in my life and what I can accomplish. Ultimately, I think that love comes in it's own time and in it's own way. When that person shows up, anyone but them will feel like a compromise. The difference between what you have already experienced and that person will be they will feel exactly the same way. You won't have to guess or wonder because they will love you the way you deserve. The way you always imagined love to feel like. Wait until that person shows up. Until then, love yourself.

Cheers to your growth and mine!

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